10 Ways To Get By When She's Not Around
How to cope up if she won't be around for a week?
(And keeping you in thought)
A busy week out of town, seminars/conference here and there,
In short, the road paved for an excited "hello, how are you" and an instantaneous "hi'" isn't impossible after all.
So the question now is, what if, as a result of the circumstance that one is away for the time being and an incommunicado springs within the day or
I'll-be-out-this-entire-week moment occurs?
What's going to happen now?
Fear not, there is always hope.
These items may not apply to everyone but again, hoping, some of it may spare you or if not, at least lighten the burden from the agony of the "wait time".
1. Keep in touch still, of course. First thing in the morning or as soon as you wake up, open the line. Leave messages or email. If not, there are plenty apps to go around with. It doesn't matter if it'd be lengthy or not. The intention is to make the person feel happy and cared for despite the distance or the absence.(It also helps you cope up with not being together.) Just because you can't meet means you can't talk either.
2. Keep yourself productively occupied. Whether it's about your line of work or your passion for art, a hobby, guitar/piano/violin practice, keep a schedule. There's enough time in a day to squeeze in portions of these activities from keeping being idle and unproductive at bay.
(Remember: If it applies, it doesn't need to be same time every day: Effective, flexible and efficient.)
3. Visit good friends or siblings (or your parents! if you live alone). If you have spare time, it's a good time to visit family and friends, catch up a little if it's been awhile. Definitely, there would be enough to talk, laugh and reminisce about.
4. Spend a day with your kid or kids. Play, watch a movie, anything fun! Or at the end of the day, make sure you put in the time for doing homework together.
5. Go the gym. Something to look forward to when she comes home. Looking good needs the proper perspiration too.
6. Always keep that time for reading. Feeding your mind with a good read is always a win-win. You cannot go wrong by picking up a good book. It doesn't need to be a best-seller. As long as it can teach you something worthwhile, it's informative, it stimulates your imagination, it broadens your vocab, it nourishes your spiritual or emotional side, it is right for you.
7. Window shop. What else is there to explain? Window shop. Just be mindful not to indulge in impulsive purchases. Simply ask yourself, is it a need or a want.
8. Take a walk. Take your (buddy) dog to the park if you don't have kids.(Of course for people who have pet dogs). You may not think of it but that walk is also good for you; think of it as your "10,000 steps a day" day.
9. Busy bee at home. If you work at home, house chores will take "the lot" of your time (Believe me, tried and tested). Or, if there's something at home that needs fixing or improvement, that project will definitely keep you occupied.
10. Be there. If it's possible to be at her workplace at the end of the day, why not. What's a little surprise here and there, right?
(Word of caution: Make sure you know the schedule. She might be out on a client call or dinner.)
+(11.) Write. Write something for her, to her. A poem, a song, a love letter, inspirational letter. Be creative with words. Anything. It may not sound as "cheezy" but it still is something honestly and genuinely from you. Even a small note would do as well. It looks easy, yes? - take note of the time and you'll realize a few lines does seem like forever to write and get it right. Eventually, the effort is worth it. Little things make up the big stuff, all the time.
Of course, most importantly in any absence, make time for end-of-day "chat". Whether it's a few hours off where you are because of the timezone dilemma, find time at the end the day making sure she knows you are thinking of her. If she manages to pick-up your call or responds to your messages, make it count. Whether it would take a few minutes or an hour, what's important is keeping the avenue of keeping in touch available.
Catch up.
Think of it as your recharge for the next day.
For sure, it would be her recharge as well.
Until that day when you're back in each other's arms, it's back to the list.
Other than that, there's always ice cream or cookies somewhere, and a little patience.
Cheerio!
(And keeping you in thought)
A busy week out of town, seminars/conference here and there,
(not to mention traffic nowadays) tight work schedule, parent duties, etc.
It really is busy. It's part of our daily struggle.
Currently, we live in a city where the culture is fast-paced.
And it's not easy being together all the time.
Of course, it doesn't necessarily mean it just ends there.
At this time and age, keeping close to someone is as easy as tapping or clicking a few buttons.
We are surrounded by technology and it's a lame excuse not to get connected.
Back in the old days, a phone call was legit. Even if you yourself didn't have one at home, as long as the other person did, there's always a payphone somewhere.
Who has time to write an actual letter, seal it and walk to the post office to drop it off?
Back then it would take a minimum of at least 2-3 days for the intended party to receive it.
It seemed too much work but during the "old days", that's how it was done.
The physical convenience we all grew up with as one of the factors of a sound relationship may still stand correct.
Yet, times have changed I'm afraid so.
Yet, times have changed I'm afraid so.
The odds of one or both in a relationship to travel or be far from each other for a certain amount of time is unmistakably inevitable - dictated by a job-related concern or a demanding workload, that almost, if not as often, half of the time takes our partner on field duties or encloses them within the confines of the office, except during breaks, and what not, is most likely to intervene with our constant you-happened and I-want-to-see-you-all-the-time.
Since we can't deny the idea that at one point, we may get disconnected, physically, it's not as bad as it sounds.
We can still make it work.
We can still make it work.
We're merely used to the fact that having someone close all the time is the most appreciative.
If we can't have that, it makes us a little sad and creates a longing for that person entirely.
It's a natural feeling, no argument there.
It's a natural feeling, no argument there.
BUT it doesn't mean it has to break us down to tears every night (yes, for some of us out there).
No.
The new-age "means of communication", in which compared with that of decades ago, is upgraded "up to our ears", so to speak.
Distance is now a thing of the past.
We see and hear a person miles away via apps in our smartphones, desktop or laptop computers; we can send them messages and get replies in real time, or send pictures and videos while they're offline.
Distance is now a thing of the past.
We see and hear a person miles away via apps in our smartphones, desktop or laptop computers; we can send them messages and get replies in real time, or send pictures and videos while they're offline.
In short, the road paved for an excited "hello, how are you" and an instantaneous "hi'" isn't impossible after all.
So the question now is, what if, as a result of the circumstance that one is away for the time being and an incommunicado springs within the day or
I'll-be-out-this-entire-week moment occurs?
What's going to happen now?
Fear not, there is always hope.
These items may not apply to everyone but again, hoping, some of it may spare you or if not, at least lighten the burden from the agony of the "wait time".
1. Keep in touch still, of course. First thing in the morning or as soon as you wake up, open the line. Leave messages or email. If not, there are plenty apps to go around with. It doesn't matter if it'd be lengthy or not. The intention is to make the person feel happy and cared for despite the distance or the absence.(It also helps you cope up with not being together.) Just because you can't meet means you can't talk either.
2. Keep yourself productively occupied. Whether it's about your line of work or your passion for art, a hobby, guitar/piano/violin practice, keep a schedule. There's enough time in a day to squeeze in portions of these activities from keeping being idle and unproductive at bay.
(Remember: If it applies, it doesn't need to be same time every day: Effective, flexible and efficient.)
3. Visit good friends or siblings (or your parents! if you live alone). If you have spare time, it's a good time to visit family and friends, catch up a little if it's been awhile. Definitely, there would be enough to talk, laugh and reminisce about.
4. Spend a day with your kid or kids. Play, watch a movie, anything fun! Or at the end of the day, make sure you put in the time for doing homework together.
5. Go the gym. Something to look forward to when she comes home. Looking good needs the proper perspiration too.
6. Always keep that time for reading. Feeding your mind with a good read is always a win-win. You cannot go wrong by picking up a good book. It doesn't need to be a best-seller. As long as it can teach you something worthwhile, it's informative, it stimulates your imagination, it broadens your vocab, it nourishes your spiritual or emotional side, it is right for you.
7. Window shop. What else is there to explain? Window shop. Just be mindful not to indulge in impulsive purchases. Simply ask yourself, is it a need or a want.
8. Take a walk. Take your (buddy) dog to the park if you don't have kids.(Of course for people who have pet dogs). You may not think of it but that walk is also good for you; think of it as your "10,000 steps a day" day.
9. Busy bee at home. If you work at home, house chores will take "the lot" of your time (Believe me, tried and tested). Or, if there's something at home that needs fixing or improvement, that project will definitely keep you occupied.
10. Be there. If it's possible to be at her workplace at the end of the day, why not. What's a little surprise here and there, right?
(Word of caution: Make sure you know the schedule. She might be out on a client call or dinner.)
+(11.) Write. Write something for her, to her. A poem, a song, a love letter, inspirational letter. Be creative with words. Anything. It may not sound as "cheezy" but it still is something honestly and genuinely from you. Even a small note would do as well. It looks easy, yes? - take note of the time and you'll realize a few lines does seem like forever to write and get it right. Eventually, the effort is worth it. Little things make up the big stuff, all the time.
Of course, most importantly in any absence, make time for end-of-day "chat". Whether it's a few hours off where you are because of the timezone dilemma, find time at the end the day making sure she knows you are thinking of her. If she manages to pick-up your call or responds to your messages, make it count. Whether it would take a few minutes or an hour, what's important is keeping the avenue of keeping in touch available.
Catch up.
Think of it as your recharge for the next day.
For sure, it would be her recharge as well.
Until that day when you're back in each other's arms, it's back to the list.
Other than that, there's always ice cream or cookies somewhere, and a little patience.
Cheerio!